Why Can’t Counsellors Always Share What Your Child Says?

Counsellors have a professional and ethical responsibility to create a safe, confidential space for your child or teen. Without that safety, children may:

• Hold back important thoughts or emotions
• Withdraw from therapy or refuse to attend
• Feel betrayed or lose trust in both the therapist and the process
• Confidentiality allows your child to express themselves freely, develop emotional independence, and build trust with their counsellor.

What This Means for Parents

It doesn’t mean you’re being excluded. Here’s what you can expect:

• You’ll receive general updates about your child’s mood, goals, or progress—but not the private details.
• Your child’s privacy is protected to help them feel emotionally safe, not to shut you out.
• There are limits to confidentiality. If your child is at risk of harm (to themselves or others), we are legally and ethically required to share that with you or the proper authorities.

How You Can Support Your Child Through Therapy

• Create a calm, open home environment where your child feels comfortable talking—without pressure.
• Join family or joint sessions when appropriate.
• Ask your child’s counsellor for general updates on themes or progress.
• Respect their space while reminding them that you’re always there for support.

Wondering About Confidentiality? Talk to Us

If you’re ever unsure or concerned, it’s okay to talk directly to your child’s counsellor. At Alliance Counselling, we encourage open dialogue with parents—while always centering your child’s safety and emotional growth.

Need Guidance or Support?

At Alliance Counselling and Assessment Services, we work with children (12 plus), teens, and families across Langley and BC. Whether you need teen counselling, or parent support, we’re here to help. We offer both in-person sessions in Langley, BC and secure virtual counselling across British Columbia.